My two year old is driving me bonkers. After 20 times of calling his name softly, or telling him to "stop" "don't" "no" my voice gets louder and meaner. It doesn't help at all because he still ignores me. Plus, I know those words don't help any but they are always my first reaction.
I have probably caused this problem but he won't stop screaming at the top of his lungs if he doesn't get his way. Even if he wants a drink of water he is screaming at me! First he yells --then he hits. I mean hits mommy and daddy right in the face. We've had serious talks about not touching the baby which he doesn't (most of the day) but how sad I have to keep him AWAY from the baby, and then I react badly when he is being mean.
Also, night times have turned into monsters. Everything is falling apart. We need consistency in schedule and discipline. I'm loosing it. I'm loosing my mind! I feel so weak.
Maybe I should pick my battles- but things I want stopped:
- the yelling
- the hitting
- the jumping on beds and couches
- the putting everything in his mouth
- the ruffing with the baby
- the bed time chaos
These are the things I want reinstated:
- Consistent Scripture Study
- Morning and Evening Family Prayer
- Less TV watching
- Eating only at the table
- Bedtime routine starting at 630 ending no later than 8
- Quiet Time (but how??)
- Time outs???
Help me, help him! Help!
Monday, March 22, 2010
STOP YELLING!!!!!!
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I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but I am sure that I will be in the same situation before I know it. Hang in there!
Your right! Consistency in timeout and schedule is key!!!! From what I have learned..... Stick to what you say....."Jordan, if you hit more more time, you will go to timeout(at his eye level)." he hits again and you put him in timeout. Alivia was in timeout 5-6 times a day and it seemed silly but it worked after a couple of weeks. She goes to timeout maybe once a week or every other week now. I think it is so important to get consistency down now, because this is the time that they are really testing you! They really are! You have to show him who is in control and you can do it by consistently putting him in timeout. You put a timer on for two minutes and completely leave him alone (no talking to him) and then when the timer goes off, you get at his level and ask him if he knows why he was in timeout. YOu explain why and then tell him to apologize and then give kisses and hugs and let it go and move on. If he comes out of timeout before the timer is off you silently put him back until he stays for two minutes. Be sure to stick to what you say though!!! You can also make a poster board of rules and talk to him about them and explain to him if he breaks a rule, he will get a warning and then if he breaks it again he will go to timeout. He will understand you are serious and even though he may not understand now, he will after the first time he has to go to timeout. I think the hitting, yelling, and ruffing wth baby should be battles picked. Sorry for the massive comment. I learned this from supernanny. Good show. Learned a lot. Your boys sure are super cute! You are a good mom, I know it is hard though when they start testing you.
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